The person who puts you with his questions in an awkward position can be guided by envy, own insolvency or love of gossip. With such persons you need to behave very carefully and do not let them take themselves by surprise. However, tactlessness is not always a sign of a bad attitude. Sometimes it's just a formal way to support the conversation, a sudden impulse of curiosity or a sincere concern for us.
And then, tactlessness - the concept is not too specific, because the border between the usual and immodest question in each of us goes on its own trajectory. Someone, for example, considers it inappropriate to discuss personal life, even with parents, and someone can easily tell about all of his adventures to an occasional fellow traveler on the train, it's something everyday.

Most often, questions of relationships, health, children, appearance, career and money fall into the category of non-tactical ones.

Here is a list of the most frequently asked (and therefore especially annoying) ones:

The most common reaction to such questions is embarrassment, mumbling something unintelligible or beginning to justify itself. This reaction is the worst option for your image: a person who asked "not that" of sincere care for you, feels guilty and upset. And the ill-wisher, who hoped to prick, will understand that he achieved the desired result and will gloat.

In general, for the same reasons, do not be rude in response to a man who asked you an uncomfortable question, whoever he was. Answer should be so that to save the person, to regain control over the conversation, and at the same time not to say anything that "can be used against you in court".

The options below will help you get out of any situation.

Sense of humor

There is no need to create additional stress where it already is enough. It is better to laugh off, bringing your answer to the point of absurdity: "How much does your dress cost?" - "I was given it by a fairy godmother. Today I go to the ball! "Or:" When will you finally get married? "-" Today they just got the alarm clock earlier to make it to the registrar's office, but they got sick of it. But tomorrow - it is necessary! "Or:" Why do you still have no children? "-" Yes, we are still in the soul of children! Come to visit the cartoons. "

Change theme

To learn this, you need to practice a little - after all, instantly change the subject so that the interlocutor forgot about his question, it is not always easy. "When will you give birth to children?" - "By the way, about the children ... do not you need a kitten? And then our neighbor gave birth to a cat. " Or: "How much do you earn?" - "By the way about money. And do not recommend a good tour operator in the European direction? "

Philosophical view

Why not speculate on the question posed to you? For example, if you are not yet married, refer to the fact that family values ​​are changing very much in our time, and the housing issue has ruined everything. In most cases, they will agree with you, and it will be possible to complain together about the "blatant injustice" of life.

Expert Council

Practically a win-win option, because many people are averse to disguised flattery and will act with pleasure as a connoisseur of this or that field (even if they are not). In response to an uncomfortable question, do the person concerned and ask yourself: what to do to get married? How to make your husband wear you in his arms? Where can I find a good job? And anyway, how to live right?

Sarafan radio

Another way to direct the channel of conversation to another plane. Mention that statistics indicate a decline in fertility in developed countries, since people are now more responsible approach to this issue and are striving to realize themselves first (against this background, anyone will look good). Or tell us that the issue of your salary is being actively discussed right now, because, according to rumors, specialists in your profile in competing firms began to earn more.

Redirects

Why not raise the career ladder? Ask my boss, I can even give a phone number ... When will I invite you to the wedding? I'll solve the solitaire, I'll pay for it on the coffee grounds, I'll go to the astrologer - then I'll say for sure. When will I have children? One Macaroni Monster is known for all his will.

Boomerang method

The trick is to answer the question with a question: this confuses the interlocutor and makes him forget about what he wanted at all. "Why did he leave you?" - "Why are you so sad? Was she also quarreling with a guy? "Or:" Have you been paid a raise? "-" And to you? "

Mirroring

Return the question to the interlocutor politely and dispassionately, while formulating it so that the opponent becomes uncomfortable for his interest. Use a universal design that begins with the words "I understand correctly that ..." - then there are different variations: "what do you want to hold the candle in my bedroom?" Or "what interest in other people's troubles is in your order?"

Flying Fantasy

Why not try on any role that comes to your mind? Give out jewelry for the jewel, a friend for the groom, a get-together at the cafe for an important business meeting. If the interlocutor is an accidental person in your life, you can safely forget about this conversation in five minutes. And if you communicate often, or you have many friends in common, you can always cheerfully exclaim: "Yes, you bought this? I'm joking! "

There will be no press conference!

Remember what celebrities say to annoying reporters when they poke a microphone in their face and shout out different provocative things? - "No comments". Surprisingly, such an answer is not considered a departure from the question and a silent confirmation of guilt. This only closes the subject as if the question were not heard at all. Perhaps you are not a Hollywood star, but you have every right to do the same. Sometimes it's better to honestly admit that the topic you are raising is not very pleasant or you do not want to discuss it with outsiders.